I’m sitting in my lounge room waiting for my slow cooked pork to roast and listening to Charlie Pluth’s new album “Voicenotes” (which is phenomenal by the way! Go listen to it) and I realise that I haven’t blogged in a while. I’ve neglected all of you who enjoy reading what crazy things go on in my brain and I’m so sorry for that. But I’m back now and I want to share some ideas with you about the Runsheet of your wedding day – from a Wedding Planner.
I recently had a Bride whose wedding didn’t go as planned and the rain definitely wasn’t helping. On my way to the location, I had to pull over to the side of the road because the venue coordinator had called in sick and there was no one at the venue to let in the cake stylist and the DJ. I probably looked like a crazy person as I sat in my car on the side of a dirt road, in the rain, talking aggressively to myself (…Bluetooth is a wonderful invention).
So I was already 30 minutes late when I did finally arrive at the venue to find that the tables had been set up wrong, that the autumn leaves which were supposed to be bagged were not and that the owner of the venue had decided to show the venue to another couple whilst we were setting up for my Bride’s wedding. Then because it was raining, I had the photographer trying to get photos in the rain which made him late by 45 minutes which meant our reception timeline was thrown out the window.
This little delay had me re-arranging what time food went out (because you need about 45 minutes between courses), what time other events were supposed to happen (such as the bridal dance, garter throw, bouquet throw) and how long the couple got to dance. Through the whole day, I was problem-solving on the fly so that nothing would seem out of the ordinary.
What I realised from this wedding though is that the Bride had an expectation of how the wedding was going to be and what times things were gonna happen and how it was going to be run, and when things didn’t meet her expectations due to things outside of her and my control (such as the venue coordinator being sick, and the heavy rain…) she became deflated. And that’s something I NEVER want to happen to you.
This story isn’t meant to scare you but hopefully educate you into understanding that a wedding day is never going to run as planned. Sometimes, things just go wrong but I’ve found that the secret to having a happy wedding day (and enjoying the massive celebration that you’ve paid a lot of money for) is to trust that your vendors know what they’re doing and to be okay with change. Your day will be perfect regardless, I mean, you’re marrying someone you want to spend the rest of your life with! That in itself is already a cause for celebration because that’s so rare to find!
I can guarantee you that those messed up floral arrangements will become just a distant memory.